Unlocking Business Success: Self-Worth, Mindset, and Authentic Leadership | Kute Blackson

​In this transformative episode of Small Business Pivots, we engage with Kute Blackson—a renowned transformational teacher, speaker, and bestselling author of "You.Are.The.One." and "The Magic of Surrender"—to explore the profound connection between self-worth, personal growth, and business transformation. ​

Kute shares his unique perspective on "uncoaching," a process designed to help individuals shed conditioned beliefs and reconnect with their authentic selves. He emphasizes that surrender is not about defeat but about consciously releasing outdated narratives to align with one's true purpose. By reframing our relationship with failure, expectations, and external validations, Kute outlines actionable steps to reclaim personal power and lead with authenticity.​

This episode serves as a catalyst for awakening, offering strategies to question limiting beliefs, heal from past experiences, and thrive both personally and professionally. Tune in to this inspiring discussion and consider exploring Kute Blackson's insightful books to further your journey toward self-discovery and success.

Kute Blackson:  Transformational Teacher & Bestselling Author 

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Chapters

• 0:54 Introduction with Kuteblackson
• 30:58 Elevating Consciousness for Business Owners
• 1:31:31 The Impact of Self
• 5:30:00 Recognizing and Releasing Limiting Beliefs
• 19:35:05 Living Without Regrets: A Motivational Closing
• 20:31:09 The Conspiracy of Conditioning: Know Thyself

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

All right, welcome to another Small Business, pivots, and we have another special guest from around the world, not too far from our headquarters in Oklahoma City, and I know that no one can introduce themselves and their business like the business owner, so I'm going to let you introduce yourself, tell us a little bit about you and some accolades and how we're going to help our guests today today, wow Blackson, here, nationally bestselling, author of two books the Magic of Surrender, and you Are the One.

Speaker 2: 0:30

The last 20 plus years I've traveled the globe, traveled the world, inspiring, enlightening, awakening, transforming lives one-on-one, small groups, intensive retreats, large group seminars, and my mission is to elevate people, elevate consciousness and help people. I don't really coach people, I uncoach people. I uncondition people from the patterns and the programmings that have blocked them from, I would say, achieving and expressing their full potential. And so this is what I do and it's my mission, it's my passion.

Speaker 2: 1:07

Inc Magazine has called me the mindfulness guru that billionaires go to for advice, because there's several folks on that level I've worked with and they found out. And so for me it's a calling and a privilege to serve people, because I feel like when I serve people, they connect more to who they are, truly, their authentic nature. They can take that and influence the world and transform the planets, because the average person spends 9, 10, 12 hours a day in a business working and that is, most of the time, more time in a business than with their families. And so I really believe that if business owners elevate and transform, create a transformational culture, then the employees, the team, the people in the business will also expand and elevate, and so I'm very passionate about that I love about small business owners.

Speaker 1: 2:21

We're very empathetic, we're compassionate about what we do, who we serve, and the more we can impact people, the better the world will be. So this is going to be a great episode. I ask everyone to buckle up. We're going to introduce the show real quick and we'll be right back. Welcome to Small Business Pivots, a podcast produced for small business owners. I'm your host, Michael Morrison, founder and CEO of BOSS, where we make business ownership simplified for success. Our business is helping yours grow. Boss offers business loans with business coaching support. Apply in minutes and get approved and funded in as little as 24 to 48 hours at businessownershipsimplifiedcom. All right, welcome back to Small Business Pivots. My friend, is there a particular place? You want to just get after it and get started? I know you've got a lot to talk about.

Speaker 2: 3:19

Go wherever you want.

Speaker 1: 3:21

Okay, Well, I know for most small business owners mindset. I just don't even have words for it, because many of us were stuck in our old habits, trials, tribulations, maybe growing up, maybe we weren't good enough, we're not confident enough. I know this is about our 85th or 90th somewhere around there episode and I talked to so many small business owners and they just their self-worth is lacking. So imagine if we could take that to the next level, the impact they could have. So let's get started there. How do we get past our past?

Speaker 2: 4:00

Yeah, often in terms of self-worth, like I think we, we all have those things I don't feel enough, imposter syndrome, am I worthy, am I valuable, can I do it? Self-doubt. And many of us don't realize that we have made up false, illusionary, delusional stories about ourselves I'm unworthy, I'm unlovable, I'm not enough, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. And we've made up those stories based on certain events and experiences that happened to us as children, and as children we weren't fully formed, we weren't fully developed, we weren't fully mature, so we weren't able to truly discern the true, real meaning of what events meant. Maybe mom left, or dad abandoned us, or, you know, there was a divorce, and so, often, based on a limited understanding and perspective, we made up a certain meaning about what that meant Mom left, so I'm not enough and I'm unworthy, or dad beat me, so that means I'm unlovable and I'm not worthy and I'm a piece of you know what. And so we made up a story about ourselves, we ingrained that story and what ends up happening is, as we attach to that story, we believe that story, thinking that story is reality, and we end up living our lives through the limited prism of that story and then everything that we end up doing throughout the rest of our lives is often an attempt to reinforce the reality of that story. And so then we go through life and we just don't feel enough and we don't feel worthy. And no matter what we achieve in the world, no matter how much we attain and achieve in business, we still don't feel enough deep down inside. And so what I have found is nothing will make you feel enough if you don't feel enough inside. You will never truly feel enough. No external success, no external validation, no accolades, no awards, no amount in your bank account will make you feel enough if you don't feel that within. It's an inside job. And so you know, when we were just another sort of side pivot into the conversation, when we were born.

Speaker 2: 6:21

If we go back to that moment, some of us most of us probably don't remember. But you look at a child, right, there's a freedom, there's a light in their eyes, there's a beauty that shines from them. They will jump on a table and sing and dance. I have a 21-month-old and he just dances. He doesn't care what people think. He not thinking no, I'm not enough. Yeah, I'm not enough. Michael, I'm not enough. I don't know what I'm doing? I'm not sure. He's just being what he's being and radiating love, and so what the hell happened to us? You know, we were all like that once. We were all like that innocent and alive and vibrant and full of possibilities, fearless, like my little kid will just jump off the table if I let him. He doesn't have any fear. Can I do it? Can I make it?

Speaker 1: 7:13

He doesn't ask, does he?

Speaker 2: 7:14

He doesn't ask right, until we start getting conditioned right. Oh, don't do that, you can't do that. And so the conditioning process starts. And I think, as business owners even though I'm not speaking business I'm speaking the sort of internal psychology of things, because if you understand that, you'll see how it affects your business and how it affects the expression of whether you fulfill your potential or not, because so much of business is an inner game how you feel about yourself and how you feel about yourself is going to determine the actions you take. Because if you don't feel you can do it and you don't feel enough and you don't feel confident, you won't take the actions that you know you are here to take. You won't take the actions that you know you're meant to take. You'll be sabotaging yourself or you're going to be procrastinating, not because you can't, but because of this internal conditioning.

Speaker 2: 8:03

So we're born free. There's the nutshell. Then we meet our parents. God bless them. They're doing the best that they know how to do, based on their childhood and their programming and their upbringing and their pain and their traumas. And so most of us had challenges growing up. Maybe dad was crazy or mom was an alcoholic or dysfunctional. You know relationship between our parents. So maybe, dad, there was divorce, maybe they were great people, but they just didn't know how to meet our emotional needs and that was painful.

Speaker 2: 8:35

And so two things happened where the conditioning process begins. The first thing is we learn all sorts of strategies to shut down, disconnect and not feel, because it's too painful to see mom and dad screaming, it's too painful to feel like my emotional needs aren't being met. And so, rather than feel that we shut down, suppress, disconnect and not feel. And layers and layers and layers and layers of unfelt pain, hurt, resentment, shame, guilt, build up, covering up our true light, our true essence, our true nature and our potential, our true heart, our true power gets hidden underneath the mountains of unfelt, undealt with feelings, which is why many of us, we end up feeling unhappy, we end up feeling depressed, because we've suppressed so many feelings that it's built up and so now we don't feel joy and aliveness and focus and vitality. The other thing is we learn all sorts of strategies.

Speaker 2: 9:38

Who do I need to be in order to get love, validation and approval? Oh, when I do this, daddy loves me. Or when I get all A's that he loves me. And so often the way, what we've been taught is a very conditional relationship with love. Oh, love is something that I have to do something in order to get. So you mean, oh, I'm not just lovable as I am, but when I achieve all A's, oh I'm lovable. Lovable as I am. But when I achieve all eight, oh I'm lovable. When I get the trophy, then I'm lovable. And so, even if we're not taught this, it sets up a conditional relationship. So now we're conditional with ourselves. So now, when I do X Y Z or achieve X Y Z, then I'm lovable, right? So that's what sometimes keeps us stuck.

Speaker 2: 10:24

And so we develop a role, a mask, a persona. We become who we think we need to be in order to get love, validation, approval. We become the funny guy, the nice guy, the responsible one, the caretaker, the shy person, and we think that is who we are. And often we don't realize that the version of ourselves that we have become is not who we really are. It's just a conditioned version of who we think we are. It's not who we really are, it's just a condition. We've become conditioned, and the degree to which we are conditioned is the degree to which we are not free.

Speaker 2: 11:04

And so now, most of us, we're walking through life in a prison of our persona. Just, you know, we develop the persona and the roles to function and survive the degree to which we're identified with who we've become. That is ego. And the job of the ego is to protect you from getting hurt and to reinforce your existence. And so now we go through life in this limited way of being. We can't fully open our hearts and express because we might get hurt again and we don't want to get hurt again. And we can't be fully expressed because if I am who I am, then maybe mom and dad won't love me, maybe the world won't love me, and so many of us, we have disconnected ourselves from ourselves and our true expression, our true power, our true potential because of things that happened, and we're not even aware that we are living in a state of survival. It's survival that we're living in versus truly thriving and being ourselves. And so then we go into our business and we try to launch and we try to express, but something holds us back. We know what to do, we know what not to do, we have the information, we have the knowledge, but this internal thing holds us back. And so I think we have to realize the connection with the outer performance and the internal reality. I think when we can heal ourselves and transform ourselves and let go of pain, then we free ourselves up to move forward, know even things like self-sabotage, right.

Speaker 2: 12:47

Why do we sabotage ourselves? Like any business owners sabotage themselves, right. Why do we sabotage us? It's it's yeah, you can discipline yourself. Yes, you can motivate yourself.

Speaker 2: 12:57

What we often do is beat ourselves up, but that just makes it worse. What we don't realize is often, when we sabotage ourselves, it's really a part of us that is protecting ourselves. Why do we procrastinate? Because we're protect, it's a form of self-protection, because this way we don't put ourselves out there and risk disappointment and risk rejection. So if I just don't do it, then I don't have to risk the disappointment and the rejection of being hurt.

Speaker 2: 13:26

We're trying to protect ourselves from being hurt, like I was hurt when I was 5, 10, 15, you know, whatever the age was, and so so much of success is the inner game and the inner state of being. So I think when we can recognize this and work with ourselves, then we're going to, we can learn how to be more compassionate and loving with ourselves. And I think, when we can learn how to be compassionate and loving with ourselves as humans, because you might be a CEO, you might be an entrepreneur, you might be a big shot, you might be whatever you know a CFO, a president, but at the core, you are still a human being with feelings, with insecurities, with questions, with pain, with desires, with fears, and I think when we can learn how to manage those fears and the internal dimension of things, it will free you up to be more powerful as a business person, as an entrepreneur, as a leader, as a CEO in the world and give your gift to the world on a whole bigger level. This is what I would say.

Speaker 1: 14:38

Your website starts with release your past, which we've talked about. Reclaim your power, and I mentioned to someone just the other day about it's interesting how you were sharing the story of your child and how he's fearless.

Speaker 2: 14:53

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 14:54

Until you tell him don't do this, don't do that, don't do that.

Speaker 2: 14:57

Careful, be careful, be careful, that's dangerous, that's not OK, don't speak to that group of people. See, we have been conditioned and programmed by parents maybe well-intended parents, educational and for positive and negative, by the way, right, you know educational systems, college, university, our teachers, music media, social media. Now they've programmed us in certain ways, good and bad, and and based on that, like if I keep telling my son, be careful, be careful, be careful, and if I live in fear or scarcity or afraid, then he's going to pick up those tendencies, he's going to absorb that. If I'm like, oh, look out, be dangerous, don't speak to that group of people, don't speak to this group of people, don't speak to that, don't go here, the world's a dangerous place, then we pick up this programming and we're not even aware. And so I think we all have to be willing to question, if we want to be free, who am I? Who am I truly? Am I who I really am? Is this who I really am? Is this what I really believe? Or is there more? And I think the more courage we have to question ourselves, the more we can free ourselves to let go and release the past and release the programming.

Speaker 2: 16:15

But in so many ways we have been programmed and we don't even know that we're programmed. And once we become aware that we're programmed, then we have to have the courage to question the programming and release the programming so that we can find our own deeper truth. To return back to the innocence of being a child. Right, you must be like a child, because they are free, they are innocent, they are alive, they run up to you Like if Pablo Escobar walked in the room. They wouldn't really have a response, they wouldn't know, necessarily, because they haven't been told. Oh, this is what it means and this is what it doesn't mean, and this is what it means and this is what it doesn't mean, and this is what that means, and this is what we've not been told. And so I think if we can learn to start letting go of our conditioning through self-awareness and having the courage to question ourselves, then we can start freeing ourselves again and returning back to our true essence, our authentic nature, which is free, which is loving, which is bold, which is authentic.

Speaker 1: 17:19

I find a lot of the younger generation and probably myself. When I was getting out of the house. My son brought this to my attention just not too long ago, because we do try to protect them. We try to yes and no. But then when he started adulting he was like Dad, I don't know what to do. And I said, son, that's kind of funny, you say that because when you were 17, 18, you couldn't wait to get out of this house because I'm going to rule the world, I can do this. And now you're out of the house and you need instruction, because you're so conditioned to not do anything on your own unless someone gives you permission or says this is what you should do. And I think a lot of people are like that, yeah, from the moment we're born.

Speaker 2: 18:02

Oh, believe this, think this way, act this way, talk this way. This is who you are. This is who we are as a family. This is what you believe. This is what we believe. This is who we are as a family. This is what you believe. This is where we believe. This is what church believes.

Speaker 2: 18:17

Oh, go to school, memorize these facts, act this way, walk this way. Okay, and that gets reinforced. So even in school. You know, when you get very good at following the rules and memorizing the facts, you get rewarded with good grades. That's how I was. I just memorized a bunch of facts and became a version of what the system wanted me to be.

Speaker 2: 18:37

But so much of the world. The system, the way it's set up, is not designed to help you be free. Free what I mean by free? I'm not talking about like anarchy, you'll do whatever you want. By free, I mean being who you really are Like. Who are you really? We're conditioned and programmed with beliefs and ideas that have been passed down to us from people, but not really saying hey, who are you really Like? What's your truth? Go inside, look inside, question inside, because true wisdom, you know. Look inside, question inside, because true wisdom you know the whole quote know thyself, right. True wisdom is to know yourself.

Speaker 2: 19:18

But, if I can be honest, I think so much of our society and our culture has an investment in you not you and I not knowing who we really are. Because if we know who we really are, we would be so powerful. We would be so powerful. So you look at advertisers, advertisers. Don't shop retail. They're not here to free you because you switch on the TV. We're constantly being bombarded with advertising and images and there's a war for our attention, constantly distracted, and in some way, shape or form we are brainwashed to believe the hypnotic conditioning of you're not enough. I mean, that's the bottom line of what they're saying. You're not enough. But if you just use this product right and buy this product and here it is, then those wrinkles will be gone and he's going to love you. Just wear this underwear and you're going to be lovable. And so so much of society has an investment in you not knowing who you are, because then you could be sold and controlled and manipulated.

Speaker 2: 20:25

The secret that they don't want us to know is how powerful we really are. The secret that they don't want us to know is how powerful we really are. The secret that they don't want us to know is that we are a spark of the divine, that we are a spark of the infinite, we are children of God. There's something inside of us that is beyond this human, physical, limited body, as a soul, as an energy, as a being, as a child of God, whatever you want to believe but there's something beyond just this limited human ego structure that is born and then will die, and so I think I don't that's a strong word to say there's a conspiracy, but I say that tongue in cheek. You know, there's a conspiracy to distract us from our own true selves, because if we can be distracted, then we can live.

Speaker 2: 21:18

Not prey on people's insecurities and fears, but find ways to empower them. Because advertising, modern-day advertising, is all about. You're not enough, but just buy this thing. You're not enough. But if you just drive this car, wow, I mean, a Rolls-Royce gets you to the same place as a Toyota, but no, it's the prestige. It's preying on our sense of inadequacy and insecurity in so many ways. And so the more we know who we are, the more free we are, the more powerful we are, the more impact we can have, and this is what I would say, and as if you're a leader you're listening to small business pivots.

Speaker 1: 22:22

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Speaker 2: 22:50

And this is what I would say. And as if you're a leader, a CEO, entrepreneur, leader I'm sure everyone listening in their own way is not everybody will love you, not everybody will like you. It's just the way of things. If you're running a company, not everyone's going to like you, and it's okay. But if you're spending your entire life and time because maybe you don't feel enough and lovable trying to get everybody to love you, trying to get everybody on your team to love you, trying to get every employee to love you, you're not going to be very effective. And so leadership is not a popularity game, right, it is about being authentic and about living in integrity and the truth. And so what we have to learn is to as leaders. If you want to be effective, you must unplug yourself from number one, people's negative opinions about you. You must unplug yourself from people's negative opinions about you. Number two, you must unplug yourself from people's negative opinions about you. Number two, you must unplug yourself from people's positive opinions about you, because then you're free. You're not trying to get people to love you, you're not reacting to people's negative opinions about you. That's the true freedom.

Speaker 2: 24:06

If you're a CEO of a company. Some are going to love you, some are going to hate you. You're president of the United States of America, some are going to love you, some are going to hate you. You're president of the United States of America, some are going to love you, some are going to hate you. It's just the nature of the game. I would say, as a leader, as a business owner, as a CEO, if everybody loves you all the time, probably you're doing something wrong because you will have to make some tough decisions and some tough calls for the benefit of the company or the greater good of all, and in the short term, people may not like that.

Speaker 2: 24:38

As a parent, right, your kids aren't going to love you all the time when you say no, but you know you need to say no because it doesn't serve that 12-year-old to go to the nightclub, right, it just doesn't. It doesn't serve that 8-year-old to eat five tubs of Haagen-Dazs, you know. And so to really be an effective leader, as a business person, as an entrepreneur, is to know who you are and to tap into your truth and be able to live that. That's the power and that's the freedom and that's the real connection. And I think you can't do that if you don't deal with your insights, because if you didn't get love as a child and now you spend your whole life seeking love and validation, then how do you truly lead and how do you truly serve your community, your employees, the company, the shareholders? You can't, because you're always going to be caving and catering to what people want and what people don't.

Speaker 1: 25:42

What's a bit of advice? Because, following your statements on your website, release your past, reclaim your power. Next is realize your dreams when you've been boxed in. I think a lot of us were boxed in. You're only this good, richard Branson says. I think one of his teachers said you're either going to be in prison or something like that. But he got past that. But a lot of us are boxed in right Limited belief. How do you realize your dreams when that just seems impossible, like I'm always going to be?

Speaker 2: 26:14

this?

Speaker 2: 26:15

I think you have to. Yes, you have to be willing to question your beliefs, and most of us do not question our beliefs. Well, I'm unlovable, I'm not enough, I can't do that. And beliefs arise from our experiences. Which beliefs arise from our experiences and the interpretation that we made, or the meaning that we made those experiences become. So X happened and we made that mean something. Y happened and we made that mean something about ourselves. Dad left, I'm not enough, mom beat me. I'm unlovable, I'm unworthy, I'm worthless, right.

Speaker 2: 27:01

And so we hold on to those beliefs for a sense of identity, safety, comfort, self-preservation. Those beliefs are not real. Those beliefs are not facts. Those beliefs are interpretations that you made up to try to make sense of the world. The challenge is, we hold onto those beliefs so tightly that those beliefs become who we think we are.

Speaker 2: 27:33

That is ego. So the reason it's so hard to let go of those beliefs is because we believe ourselves to be this version of ourselves. We really believe ourselves to be the ego, and the ego doesn't want to change. The job of the ego is to protect you from getting hurt, and the job of the ego doesn't want to change. The job of the ego is to protect you from getting hurt, and the job of the ego is to reinforce its existence. So, to question the ego is to question your beliefs. To question your beliefs feels like a death because we believe ourselves to be those beliefs.

Speaker 2: 28:06

And so if you can realize, oh, I am not my beliefs, do you mean I'm not my beliefs? Well, are there certain things that you believe now that you didn't believe when you were 10? Are there certain things that you believed when you were 10? You were so sure about when you were 12, 15. But with life and wisdom you realized oh, that's not true anymore. But you were so sure at age 20, the way the world was. But maybe at age 30 or 40, you realize, huh, that's not fact.

Speaker 2: 28:40

So many of us were operating through life as though fiction is fact. Well, the truth is, we have to question our beliefs and ask is this true, is this real, is this fact or is it fiction? And when you believe the fiction as though fact, it becomes a reality unto you. So we have to be willing to question is this fact, is this fiction, is this real? Is this not what's true? And to have the courage to question yourself, to let go of your beliefs. That is surrender, that is releasing, that is a let go, that is a death, I would say. Then you can find yourself and you, if you're willing to question but most of us are not willing to question because it starts shaking the very fabric and foundation of who we think we are, and that can be a bit scary, but that's what we must be willing to do, otherwise you end up, yes, living boxed in by your beliefs.

Speaker 2: 29:33

But you see, any real goal, any true goal, any real goal, will force you. You set a goal. You have a vision, an inspired goal. If it's real and worthy, it will be outside of your current identity. It will force you to grow, it will force you to be who you've never been before. It will force you to expand, which will mean you cannot achieve that goal.

Speaker 2: 30:05

Being the version of yourself that you were, you cannot achieve the next level of your life. Being who you've been cannot achieve the next level of your life. Being who you've been before, the next level of your life will require the next level of you, which will require that you let go of who you were. And so, when you're trying to manifest a goal or a dream and desire.

Speaker 2: 30:31

If you're here and it's here it will force you on a journey, a journey to confront and face those limiting beliefs and ideas about yourself, because those are the things that have gotten you here, but those beliefs will not be the things that get you here, and that's what you will have to let go of and release and sort of surrender, and that's the process of evolution in personal growth so that you can become the person that is capable of fulfilling the dream and the vision. You have to become the person and most of us don't achieve it because we don't become the person, because we don't let go of those beliefs. Beliefs are not who you are, they're just what you believe. And beliefs change and we've made up stories about ourselves based on certain experiences that happen, that seem real but it's not real. But what you must recognize is if you made up the story, then you can unmake the story. If you made it up, you can make up another story, but you have to be willing to question.

Speaker 2: 31:39

That's powerful, I would ask people to ask themselves when you look at your goal, okay, wow, it's outside of my comfort zone. I don't know how I'm going to do it. You're not meant to know how you're going to do it. If knew how you were going to do it, it wouldn't be a true goal. Yeah, you might as well just walk from your living room to your to your bedroom. That doesn't take any anything.

Speaker 2: 32:01

There's no growth there, and so you have to ask yourself who do I need to be? Who do I need to be in order to achieve that goal? Who do I need to become? Who do I need to be in order to achieve that goal? Who do I need to become? Who do I need to be and get a sense of who that is, so that you can then step into that and remove the limitations that prevent you from stepping into that version of yourself. That's the growth. So the goal will take you on a journey of becoming that person that is able of fulfilling that dream and that goal and the vision. There's the growth.

Speaker 1: 32:37

Kind of aligns with that old business saying of what got you here won't get you there. You know, simple as that you know it's the same thing. Well, you've got a couple of popular books out there. You want to share a little bit about those.

Speaker 2: 32:50

Yeah, look, you Are the One. And the Magic of Surrender. Tell me what you want to know, because I could speak for days. How?

Speaker 1: 32:55

can they help? How are they different? How can they help? How does one book help a person? Yeah, the first book.

Speaker 2: 33:02

In a nutshell, I'll focus on the second book, but the first book is all about you Are the One. It's about finding your purpose in life and the concepts I'm teaching about how do you uncondition yourself. The second book is called the Magic of Surrender, which is all about how to surrender, because we have so many, shall we say, misconceptions about the word surrender today, especially as business owners. Oh, surrender is giving up, surrender is weak, surrender is waving the white flag. Surrender means I won't manifest my goals and dreams and desires. Surrender means I'll get less in life. And I'm actually saying that no, if you surrender, what if you didn't get less in life? What if you got more? More than you could have imagined, more than you could have thought, more than you could have imagined with the limitation of your mind? And so surrender is a letting go of control, letting go of who you think you are, how you think your life should look, who you think you should be, so that you can feel and align with who you're really seeking to become, more than anything. If you look at any of the great ones Jesus, bruce Lee who's a childhood hero of mine, muhammad Ali Mandela, martin Luther King in their own way. They all surrendered. Okay, let's take it out of the booboo realm, let's take it to business, right? Love them or hate them, folks, don't kill me for this. Elon Musk, jeff Bezos, richard Branson they all, in their own way, surrendered, oh yeah. Well, let's look at Elon Musk. He's kind of getting right through the coals these days, but if we look at it right, here's a guy who made about 200 million in PayPal money, spacex, tesla, this dude and you don't have to like him as a person, but this dude invested 200 million of his 200 million into this next venture because he got the calling. That is surrender. He went all in on what he felt was true. Jeff Bezos didn't make money in Amazon for what Decades? But he believed, he believed, he believed and he went all in. That is surrender. They offered Zuckerberg, I think Google or one of these companies Microsoft maybe offered Mark Zuckerberg a billion dollars for Facebook in the early stages. No, that is surrender. Surrender.

Speaker 2: 35:55

At some point when you surrender, you're going all in on your vision. So when you look at the great ones back to Jesus Bruce Lee, muhammad Ali Gandhi, mother Teresa at some point they all surrendered themselves. Okay, life, I'm ready, the life that they ended up living may not have been the life that they thought they were going to live, but when they surrendered themselves to the life that was seeking to happen and seeking to express, then they were able to tap into another dimension of possibility, infinite potential that they were able to be used by life. And I think that's when the magic happens, that's when the blessings happen. We all want magic in our lives, don't we? But we don't want to surrender, and surrender is a letting go of what is no longer working, what is no longer alive. And so most of us, as I said, the next level of your life requires the next level of you, but most of us, we don't want to let go of the old. We hold on, but not realizing that holding on to what is no longer working simply blocks your blessing. It blocks your blessing, and so letting go makes space and makes room for the more, and that's when the blessings happen.

Speaker 2: 37:15

And so, as an entrepreneur, here's what I would ask you what is it you're holding on to or you're doing in your business that is no longer working for you, that you know is not working? That's question number one. As a business owner, I'd ask you question number two. Here's the trickier question what is it that you're doing? That you're doing that is working. It's working, but doing more of it is actually stifling and inhibiting. The next level is actually stifling and inhibiting the next level, the next level of your growth as a human, as a business, as a company. You could just keep doing it forever, but you won't scale and you won't grow, and so really, it takes letting go, it takes expanding, it sometimes takes a letting go of the good so that we can tap into the great, and that's what I would invite people to think about.

Speaker 1: 38:17

Well, and for those listeners that consistently say, well, these people we're talking about had a better life. I'm only going to address two of them Jesus and Elon Musk. I want everyone to research their childhood.

Speaker 2: 38:31

They did not live a glorious life, so they had to get over things, they had to surrender, they had to do some things to overcome that.

Speaker 1: 38:38

Elon Musk is a perfect example. He didn't come from anything, so I want you to. We could talk all day long. This is so good, but I know there's a lot of people that probably want to learn more on a consistent basis. Where can they find you? How do you coach? Sure yeah.

Speaker 2: 38:54

Look, I have a podcast. It's called Soul Talk 400 episodes. Check it out. Soul Talk, spotify, apple.

Speaker 2: 39:03

My main website, I would say for now, is the simplest way K-U-T-E, cootbl, blacksoncom. I'm sure the link will be in the show notes. You can find out about my events, about my seminars. For the last 20 years I've worked with people one-on-one. That's how I started working with people one-on-one and entrepreneurs and business owners, but not with the business, with the inner game, so to speak. I don't work with clients so much one-on-one these days, but many seminars, retreats in Bali and India. If you want to find out more about my seminars and my events, go to my website, kubelaxsoncom. There you can also enter your name and your email to get on my list and you'll receive a free three-part video training series on how to find your purpose, and so you can check that out as well.

Speaker 2: 39:53

What else? My book, the Magic of Surrender, my other book, you Are the One. Check those two books out. Instagram I'm always posting constant on Instagram Coop, blackson, k-u-t-e, but mostly it would be a joy to support anyone that was ready to go to the next level of their lives, and the best way is come to one of my events. Come to one of my retreats around the world and I promise you, magic will start happening.

Speaker 1: 40:20

Yeah, I can back that up. You have a lot of good, great stuff out there. I always end our show with one last question, and that is if you were in a room full of business owners different industries, different sizes of business what's one last thing you could offer of encouragement? It could be a quote, some insights that would be applicable to all of them, no matter what season of life or business they're in. Just some general insights.

Speaker 2: 40:50

This might not be what you're expecting, but I'm going to say it you are going to die. Feel that you are going to die. There is no avoiding it. It's the only guarantee from the moment you're born. Bill Gates, elon Musk, jeff Bezos, sergey Brin, larry Page, the greatest business owners in the world, larry Ellison the list goes on. Richard Brent, you will die If you can hold death close.

Speaker 2: 41:36

Make death your friend, feel it, breathe into it, not as some morbid thing, ooh no but as an urgent inspiration to live life. Then you realize how precious this moment is, how precious every second is. And so, if you find yourself in fear, should I do this? Should I not do this? If you find yourself procrastinating, should I do this? Should I not do this? Feel your death If these were your last moments, if today was your last day. Is this how you want to die? Just sitting there in fear? Is this how you want to die? Just procrastinating your day away? Feel it, because when you feel your death, it puts a real, sobering reality check to how precious every second is. Tomorrow is not a right given by God. Tomorrow is a privilege if we are blessed to receive it. And so I would say, when we meet our maker.

Speaker 2: 42:33

Whatever you believe, you cannot go to God, say, hey God, can I get a refund on those five years I wasted at work in my business because I just was afraid? Can I get a refund on those 10 years I did the thing I hated? Can I get a refund on those three years in my relationship that I was not present? Can I get a refund on those 10 years I wasn't present with my child? Once that time is gone, it is gone forever. There are no refunds in this life. So how would you need to live your life in such a way that you had absolutely zero regrets?

Speaker 2: 43:16

This is what I would leave you with today, and if you really feel your death, I promise you it will transform how you do your business. For some of you, you might even leave your business. For some of you, you might sell your business. For some of you, you might change your business. And For some of you, you might sell your business. For some of you, you might change your business and pivot and do something else. Because if God came down and told you the exact date and the exact time of your death on a piece of paper like a card, expiry card and said this is when you're going. Would that change how you're living now?

Speaker 2: 43:52

If it would if it would make those changes and don't waste time.

Speaker 1: 43:59

You've been a blessing to many and a wealth of information. I appreciate you, my friend, and I wish you continued success. Thanks again. Thank you for listening to Small Business Pivots. This podcast is created and produced by my company. Thanks again, 48 hours at businessownershipsimplifiedcom. If you're enjoying this podcast, don't forget to hit the subscribe button and share it as well. If you need help growing your business, email me at michael at michaeldmorrisoncom. We'll see you next time on Small Business Pivots.